Why Praising Children Matters More Than You Think: How to Praise Your Child with Julia Lair
If you’ve ever wondered how to praise your child without overdoing it, you’re not alone.
So many parents want to encourage ways of promoting positive behaviour, but they worry about saying the wrong thing. In my conversation with PCIT therapist Julia Lair, we unpacked the real benefits of praising a child and what parents can do to make praise more effective and meaningful.
The good news is that praising children doesn’t have to be complicated. In fact, it comes down to a few simple strategies you can start using today. These small changes can help you build stronger connections with your child and make everyday parenting a little easier.
How to Praise Your Child Step 1: Start by Noticing the Good
The first step in learning how to praise your child is to actually notice what’s going well. When you’re exhausted or caught up in correcting behavior, it’s easy to overlook the good moments. Julia encourages parents to slow down and look for small wins - moments of cooperation, kindness, or effort.
By spotting these small positive moments, you’re already using one of the most powerful ways of promoting positive behaviour. You’re training yourself to focus on growth rather than mistakes. The benefits of praising a child start here: when kids feel seen for their effort, they naturally want to repeat it.
Try this today: look for one thing your child is doing right, even if it’s small. Then point it out specifically. That single moment of recognition can make a big difference.
How to Praise Your Child Step 2. Be Specific: How to Praise a Child With Words That Work
Not all praise is equal. Julia explains that the most effective praise is specific and clear. A simple “Good job” is nice, but it doesn’t tell your child what they did right. Instead, say something like, “I love how you shared your toys with your sister” or “You worked really hard on that puzzle.”
This kind of labeled praise helps your child understand exactly what behavior you value. It’s one of the most evidence-based ways of promoting positive behaviour and an essential part of how to praise a child with words that actually make sense to them.
The benefits of praising a child in this way go far beyond short-term compliance. Kids begin to see themselves as capable, kind, and hardworking - qualities that stick with them long after childhood.
How to Praise Your Child Step 3. Say It Out Loud and Say It Often
The third strategy is simple but powerful: actually say the praise out loud. Many parents notice the good things but never voice them. Julia reminds us that praising children out loud helps them internalize those positive messages and see themselves through our eyes.
Even if you think your child already knows how you feel, say it anyway. Consistent, specific praise strengthens your relationship and reinforces ways of promoting positive behaviour at home. Remember, there’s no research suggesting that too much praise harms kids - only that the right kind of praise helps them thrive.
When you practice how to praise your child openly and often, you give them a mirror that reflects their strengths and helps them grow into confident, kind individuals.
Benefits of Praising a Child
At the heart of all this is connection. The benefits of praising a child go beyond better behavior. Praising children builds trust, confidence, and a sense of safety in your relationship. It tells them, “I see you. I value you. I notice the good things you do.”
If you’re ready to make these strategies part of your daily routine, start small. Choose one new way to practice how to praise a child with words today. Be genuine, be specific, and be consistent. You’ll see the difference - not just in your child’s behavior, but in how you feel as a parent.
Listen to the full episode of The Educated Parent Podcast to hear my full conversation with Julia Lair about the real science behind praising children, the lasting benefits of praising a child, and easy ways of promoting positive behaviour that truly work.
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[00:00:00] Leah Clionsky: Welcome to the Educated Parent Podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Leah Clionsky, and I am so excited about our topic for today and our guest, because I am really passionate about what we're gonna talk about next. So this entire episode might be slightly controversial, but what we're gonna talk about is. Why you should praise your child and how to give the best kinds of praises that you can, and feel very strongly about that.
[00:00:28] Leah Clionsky: So I'm here with my fantastic guest, Julia Lair. Julia Lair is a licensed clinical social worker and certified PCIT therapist. In fact, she's part of our PCIT Experts Clinic, so I know exactly how good she is at helping families and children. She's passionate about providing evidence-based support and compassion to children and families who are struggling with challenging behavior and big feelings, right?
[00:00:53] Leah Clionsky: 'cause that's what PCIT is all about. How do we help parents navigate big feelings in young children and the challenging behaviors that go along with them? After earning her degree at the University of Austin, at the University of Texas at Austin, she completed training in various environments, including schools, the foster care.
[00:01:13] Leah Clionsky: System and international community development. So even though she's actually technically living in California, she's excited to connect and provide PCIT to Texas families. So Julie, I'm so glad to have you here.
[00:01:28] Julia Lair: Thanks. I'm glad to be here and to talk about why praise is important for kids.
[00:01:32] Leah Clionsky: I know you and I have had so many off air conversations about why we think that if anything, we should be praising children. More, and I'm curious as to why you think that this is even a controversial topic at all. Wow.
[00:01:48] Julia Lair: Yeah, I think like a lot of topics right now, there's just so much information circulating, whether that's on Instagram or TikTok or parenting blogs, a lot of which can be helpful. But I think there's just an overwhelming amount of information and. Some of it lately has talked about, you know, not praising your children or reasons why you might want to not offer that praise.
[00:02:08] Julia Lair: Right. And I, I think it's actually not as helpful as it may seem.
[00:02:12] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, I mean, I. It's interesting, there's some like strong opinions out there about praise, and I guess I should just define praise, right? Praise is when we tell somebody that we like what they're doing, that we appreciate them or the things that they're doing, it's when we basically give people positive feedback and we talk about their value to us, like, I Love you is actually a praise.
[00:02:36] Leah Clionsky: So basically praising is just us. Giving someone else like that social feedback that like, I like this, I like you, I like this about you. I like this about our relationship. And so the idea that like we shouldn't be telling children that we like and appreciate them and the things that they're doing is kind of a wild idea.
[00:02:57] Leah Clionsky: But there are some people who have really gotten behind it and I think it's coming from a fear-based perspective. Do you feel like that Julia?
[00:03:05] Julia Lair: Yeah, I do. I think there's a lot of fear on what happens if I praise my kid, how am I supposed to praise my kid? You know, fear around the types of behaviors to praise. There's a lot of fear. I agree.
[00:03:14] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. I mean, I don't know if you run into this a lot, but I see parents who. Are afraid that if they praise their child too much, that they'll build their confidence too high. Have you run into that? Like, oh, if I give them too much positive feedback, then they'll think that they're better than everybody else, and then I'll make them spoiled.
[00:03:34] Leah Clionsky: I.
[00:03:35] Julia Lair: Right. Yeah. I think there's that fear of what does that priest turn into, right? Does it turn into this false confidence? Which. It does not happen. Right. There's also the fear, I know you touched on this in the previous episode, but the fear of, you know, does their motivation become external? If I'm praising them also, we don't see that happen.
[00:03:53] Julia Lair: Right. So there's a lot of, I think, fear in the outcomes of these praises.
[00:03:57] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, that external one is interesting. I've heard parents bring this up to me a lot recently. Well, it's like, well, if I praise them, then I'll only do good things because I want them to, and they won't feel that inside. So instead of saying, I'm proud of you for doing your best, instead, you should say, I hope you are proud of yourself.
[00:04:16] Leah Clionsky: Or Are you proud of yourself for doing your best? And it's just like such an unnecessary workaround, really.
[00:04:24] Julia Lair: Yeah. I hear the question phrase of that a lot that are you proud of yourself or do you basically asking, are you praising yourself? Right? And for most people, especially for young children they're probably not, right. They're not really thinking about it in that way. They wanna know what you think.
[00:04:39] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. And it's okay for them to know what you think because you are. The mirror that reflects back to them who they are. Like I know Julia, you and I were chatting about this before too, but like kids look to us to understand themselves, right? They're in this world, this confusing world, and when we're almost like a mirror to them.
[00:04:58] Leah Clionsky: And so when they look in that mirror, the things we say and do, tell them who they are, and that's developmentally appropriate for children. And so when we reflect back to them. You're wonderful. You know, you're a person who's capable of doing challenging things. You're somebody worthy of respect. You're somebody that I see and value and appreciate.
[00:05:19] Leah Clionsky: Then they take that into themselves so that when the world sends them more critical messaging, like, I don't wanna play with you anymore. You know, you're not fun, or if you don't do what I want, then I'm not gonna be friends with you. That child has a strong sense of self, and so we actually need to be providing that because we're definitely gonna provide critical feedback, right?
[00:05:41] Leah Clionsky: We're providers of feedback in general. So if I only point out when you make mistakes and I don't point out to you the incredible things that you do, then you build this really one-sided version of yourself.
[00:05:53] Julia Lair: Right. And then I think also we've talked about this too, but then the person giving that feedback, right? Your attention shifts to be a little bit more primed towards the feedback that you're giving. So when you're, you know, oftentimes focusing on the more negative feedback, which happens a lot in parenting, right?
[00:06:09] Julia Lair: There are things you have to correct and things you may need to bring attention to. It can be feel harder to even know how to shift into starting to give those praises, especially with the fear that people are feeling around it.
[00:06:21] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. No, you're right. Like what you look for in somebody changes what you see in them, and then it changes your relationship with them.
[00:06:29] Julia Lair: Right.
[00:06:30] Leah Clionsky: I ran into actually this, this past weekend. I was, I have a 3-year-old, he's lovely, but every now and then we have very strong differences of opinion and we were starting to get into one of those negative cycles where he was doing things and I was reacting to them strongly.
[00:06:46] Leah Clionsky: And so he was doing them more. And I could see that I was getting into that cycle. So luckily I was able to pull myself back after a bit and say, what's he doing? Well, what can I refocus on? And I like forced myself to sit there and like notice good things he was doing or at least non-problematic things.
[00:07:02] Leah Clionsky: And my anger just was going down. Like I was like, you know, he is trying to calm down, you know, he did ask me with Please words, which we've really been working on, instead of give me the bowl, you know, can I please have the bowl? Right? We've been working on that and so when I started noticing the good things he was doing.
[00:07:22] Leah Clionsky: My anger went down and then when I started sharing with him the good things that he was doing, he started like, you could just see he was starting to feel proud of himself. His smile was coming back on his face and I could restructure our interaction, but I, it really came from me trying to see the good in him, which was a hard moment.
[00:07:41] Leah Clionsky: 'cause I was frustrated when we got to that point.
[00:07:43] Julia Lair: Yeah. Well, no cycles. It can feel so hard to even have a moment where you can think about stepping out of the cycle, right? 'cause you can get so, like swept up in it.
[00:07:52] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. Oh, absolutely. You know, it's easy for Julie and I as PCIT therapists where we, basically, we teach parents skills and then we watch them while they play and we coach them during that interaction. And of course, we're not emotionally involved. Right, so we can sit back and we can see what's going on in the behaviors, and we can help use skills to shift those patterns.
[00:08:14] Leah Clionsky: You know, shift parents out of that angry pattern into a more positive pattern. But when it's you, when it's you alone and there's no coach, and your feelings are getting strong, it can be really hard to shift yourself sometimes.
[00:08:26] Julia Lair: That's really challenging. Yeah, I, I talk with parents about this all the time, right? We can do all the right things. They can know all the skills, and it's still really hard to apply in your real life.
[00:08:34] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, our kids really know exactly sometimes how to trigger those feelings. And so then coming back to a place of what is good about what this child is doing right now can be hard. Yeah, no, it feels, it's good in relationships and important in all relationships for us to offer praise and positive feedback.
[00:08:54] Leah Clionsky: Think about your like relationships as an adult, like Julia, would you wanna be married to your husband if all he did was criticize you?
[00:09:01] Julia Lair: No, I was thinking about this actually today in preparation for this. I was thinking just about the overlap, right? Between these different relationships and how praise is so important in all of them. Right. I don't think that any of us would sit and think, okay, if I. You know, if, if I see something nice my friend does for me, or my partner does for me, or someone does for me, you know, I can't tell them because I'm afraid of how it will, you know, affect them.
[00:09:24] Julia Lair: No one's we would wanna tell them, we right. We wanna thank our friends, we wanna thank our husbands, whatever. Right. But with children, for some reason, there's that, that fear there and it shifts a little bit.
[00:09:34] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, I'm not gonna send my friend a thank you note or a thank you text for doing me that favor, because that's praise. And they should find it from within only. Yeah.
[00:09:42] Julia Lair: Right? Right. It's different.
[00:09:44] Leah Clionsky: Mm-hmm.
[00:09:45] Julia Lair: Or we think it's different.
[00:09:46] Leah Clionsky: too, is the more you praise. The more people will want to do good things. I mean, it works on us as well, right?
[00:09:53] Leah Clionsky: Like if someone, if you do something for someone and they notice and they appreciate you, you want to do it again. And not because you're being manipulated, but because you're like, oh, I know what they want from me. I know like how I can help them. It feels good. And kids are the same way. They wanna meet.
[00:10:10] Leah Clionsky: Our expectations and when we let them know like, Hey, actually this is the thing that's so helpful. They want that. They want that strong, positive attention that they can get through. Praise.
[00:10:21] Julia Lair: Absolutely. Yeah, I, I definitely agree.
[00:10:24] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. We all want, we all wanna be told we're doing a good job. We all want to, it's reassuring and a social dynamic to know that you are valued and appreciated by the people around you.
[00:10:34] Julia Lair: mm-hmm. Yeah. It makes you feel safe and seen and. And then you keep doing those things to feel safe and seen and valued.
[00:10:42] Leah Clionsky: I do have to point out from a nerdy research perspective that there is zero research segment praise hurts children. Zero studies saying that like none of that is coming from actual research. That's just coming from opinions and philosophies, but none of it is actually grounded in fact. And in all of the parenting treatments that have really strong efficacy for changing the parent child dynamic, improving relationships and connectedness and positive behaviors, all of them have increasing praise as a fundamental strategy.
[00:11:20] Leah Clionsky: That's encouraged and promoted throughout the treatment. It's one of the strongest building blocks across all effective parenting treatments, so you can be, you can feel rest assured that like the evidence is so strongly in praise, and that's why it breaks my heart when people are afraid to do it or they feel mad at themselves for praising the wrong way.
[00:11:41] Julia Lair: Right.
[00:11:42] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. I'd say the only caveat is there's that there's one study that's like, maybe it's better to praise children based upon what they do sometimes than like what they produce. Like, oh, instead of saying, yeah, you like, yeah. What were you gonna say, Julia?
[00:11:57] Julia Lair: Like the outcome there, right? Like praising the effort versus outcome. I hear that a lot.
[00:12:01] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. Like, it's great that you worked so hard on your math test instead of, I'm so proud of you for getting a good grade,
[00:12:07] Julia Lair: Mm-hmm.
[00:12:08] Leah Clionsky: I think you can do both, right? Like if you don't praise, like if you say to your child, I'm think you're really smart and I'm really proud of you for working hard, you're, if you tell them they're smart too.
[00:12:19] Leah Clionsky: You're not like undoing something and now you've ruined them. It's just you don't only wanna praise outcomes all the time. Great job getting A's versus great job, working hard on different ways of studying and doing tough things. You can give both praises. You don't have to. As long as you're being genuine, I don't think you can harm your child with praise.
[00:12:40] Julia Lair: Well, especially if the alternative is to not praise it all out of fear of saying the wrong thing. Right? I think praising the outcome is better than not praising at all. Right? Praising both is better than just praising the one. There's a lot of room for creativity within those praises too.
[00:12:56] Leah Clionsky: Yeah. And we are like framing. There is always a value that you are communicating with praise. Like if you praise your teenager only for how skinny she is all the time you're communicating that you value her weight, right? And that might not be what you wanna be communicating to anybody, but especially to a preteen.
[00:13:13] Leah Clionsky: So you have to be aware of like what are you communicating? But if you're praising that, you've probably also communicated that value in other ways as well.
[00:13:21] Julia Lair: Right.
[00:13:23] Leah Clionsky: All right. Well, obviously you and I can talk about why praise is good for a million years, but Julia, do you wanna share our strategies for how to give the kind of praise that will really be worth it for your child?
[00:13:34] Julia Lair: Yes. So I think, you know, we kind of alluded to the first one, but the first one is really just to start looking for and noticing, you know, behaviors you can praise. Um, especially if you've found yourself in a cycle of maybe more of that. Negative feedback where you're more, you know, aware of the behaviors that might need correction.
[00:13:52] Julia Lair: Really stopping to pause and look at, okay, what is my child doing that is, you know, anywhere from neutral to positive is how I like to explain it to parents. It doesn't have to be, you know, you're praising them on their best ever day or behavior. It could be, you know, thank you for using your words, because the alternative is that they screamed at you.
[00:14:11] Julia Lair: Right? It can be something like that. So really looking for, okay, what are these behaviors that I can praise? That's number one. And I think that takes kind of stepping outta that cycle, like you spoke about earlier also.
[00:14:23] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, it's like you have to be a detective. You're like, what is good? Or at least better than before.
[00:14:30] Julia Lair: Mm-hmm.
[00:14:31] Leah Clionsky: You know, what can we, like if one child is hitting another child and they are not hitting and they say, I'm mad at you, you're like, great job using your words and keeping your sister safe. Like you're getting in there for any sort of positive behavior all the way up to like, I love how you're sharing with me.
[00:14:49] Leah Clionsky: You know, it makes me feel so happy when we play together and we're sharing, like you can go anywhere through that. I've heard parents express a lot of like difficulty seeing those unseen behaviors or also feeling like I don't, almost like it's stupid to praise something that is just better than the last thing, but it really does like make a difference.
[00:15:11] Leah Clionsky: And it helps your child notice too, like, oh yeah, like I did use my words. That is what I've been working on.
[00:15:18] Julia Lair: Right. And I think especially considering the dynamic of the parent child relationship, right? The parent is teaching the child how to do these things, right? They're teaching them how whether it's, you know, changing course of behavior or doing more of that desired behavior or just, you know.
[00:15:33] Julia Lair: Working on already strong areas, like if they're already a polite and wonderful child most of the time, right? You can continue praising those things and building on that. So I think one thing that I hear from parents sometimes is, you know, almost is it worth it to praise? Or why do I need to praise if it's this already, you know, something that's happening, that's a good thing for them.
[00:15:52] Julia Lair: And I think that just takes us back to even the friend example, right? You wanna let your friend know if you liked what they did. You know you are giving feedback one way or another, even if you're just sitting with them.
[00:16:01] Leah Clionsky: Hmm. And you're also like re, you know, that mirror analogy I gave where you're reflecting back who they are. Like one thing I always praise in my kids all the time is them doing hard things. I look for that opportunity. Because I think that resilience is built on being able to do hard things, so it doesn't matter what it is.
[00:16:22] Leah Clionsky: If they sit with frustration and work on something that's challenging, whether it's homework or blocks, or managing their frustration with a sibling, I always, always look for opportunities to praise that behavior. And I can hear, my kids will say, you know what? I'm really good at mommy. It's doing hard things.
[00:16:40] Leah Clionsky: And I'm like, I hope so, because I've been really pointing it out to you a lot.
[00:16:44] Julia Lair: Yeah, it's working,
[00:16:45] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, you can use that strategy too, looking for the unseen things that are consistent with values that you have, like a kindness, for example,
[00:16:54] Julia Lair: Mm-hmm.
[00:16:54] Leah Clionsky: every time you notice kindness, then you, they see it in themselves too.
[00:16:59] Julia Lair: Yeah. I love that you also spoke about, you know, the value of doing a hard thing, right? 'cause it's not necessarily even that's not outcome driven, but it may lead to different outcomes, right? So it's like they can be both. And I think another one I hear or I try to remind parents of a lot is praising for trying something new, right?
[00:17:16] Julia Lair: Even if it didn't go well, or even if they didn't like it, even if they didn't wanna continue doing it, just praising that they got started. Right, because the goal is that we're gonna continue to shape, you know, our children and to people who can do hard things, take risks and feel safe enough to, you know, learn.
[00:17:31] Julia Lair: So yeah, those unseen behaviors I think are really wonderful and hard to see. That's why they're unseen.
[00:17:37] Leah Clionsky: I love that you, I love that you help parents see that in their children, and that's where that coaching aspect in PCIT is so helpful, right? Because we're more objective so we can watch that interaction and then. We can see the unseen more easily sometimes because we're not in the moment involved in that situation.
[00:17:55] Leah Clionsky: But if you can't praise it, if you can't see it. So starting to look is a really important first step.
[00:18:02] Julia Lair: Right. Which takes us to number two, right? So number two, that second strategy there after you've observed right, and kind of looked for those behaviors is really creating that praise. So, you know, we've talked about this off air but just really how to compile that praise. I think most people are, a lot of people may think of praise as good job or nice work.
[00:18:26] Julia Lair: Those are praises, but they're not telling your child exactly what it is that you liked. So I always think about, okay, for taking good job for blank, right? Thank you for blank. Just always filling in exactly that behavior that you like to see.
[00:18:42] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, that's what makes a labeled praise, where you're like, this is the exact thing I want to see you do more of. This is what was so impressive to me.
[00:18:52] Julia Lair: Mm-hmm.
[00:18:52] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, this is how I have my cos my husband making me coffee on a regular basis. I love how you make me coffee. Thank you so much for making me coffee. The exact way I like it is listening to this episode being like, oh, this is why I keep making her coffee.
[00:19:06] Julia Lair: It works, right?
[00:19:08] Leah Clionsky: It works. And he feels appreciated. 'cause he is, and he knows exactly what it is that I am enjoying. So that's like adding that richness to it of what the child is doing that you've seen and understood makes that praise much more powerful.
[00:19:26] Julia Lair: Right. Absolutely. And I think, you know, there, there are so many expressions of that praise, right? There's a lot of ways we, could communicate that. And so really just taking a second, even in that first step of identifying, okay, what am I going to draw attention to here and putting it in the statement.
[00:19:45] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, so you're looking for it in step one. You're deciding how you're gonna frame it for your child in step two and what's step three?
[00:19:54] Julia Lair: Step three is telling them, right? It's letting them know, it's expressing it to them. So it's just communicating to them, Hey, you know, thank you for using Gentle Hands with your brother. Right? I like how you shared your snack with your friend, whatever it is, right? Whatever you're wanting to phrase.
[00:20:12] Julia Lair: You know, thanks for listening to me. Thanks for coming back. Really, any of these statements that you're trying to communicate, it's really just letting them know that they, that you saw it and that you, appreciate it.
[00:20:25] Leah Clionsky: Yeah, if you're, if you are dealing with a teenager, it might be something like, I really respect how you told me the truth, even though you were worried you would get in trouble. You know, you can frame it a little bit differently. Pointing those things out. I think sometimes it's like we see the good thing, we know what we would say, and then we get scared to say it.
[00:20:42] Leah Clionsky: So this is kind of the point that's like, just spit it out. Like
[00:20:45] Julia Lair: Mm-hmm.
[00:20:46] Leah Clionsky: just say it. Just tell them, you can't praise somebody too much. And if you wanna really feel confident in that when we're teaching PCIT, we're teaching parents how to do these skills, we ideally want them to offer five of 10 of these high value praises in five minutes. So that's a lot of praising over and over and over again. So like you, if you just sit there with a child and you genuinely point out positive things that you like about them and that you like about their behavior, like you, you are not over saturating them. It really doesn't hurt for other people to hear that you like and appreciate them as much as possible.
[00:21:27] Leah Clionsky: Again, when it's real, I mean, don't be fake.
[00:21:30] Julia Lair: right. When I think too encouraging, I always like to encourage parents, especially when they're starting out with this, like if it feels scary, sometimes even vulnerable, especially maybe with an older child not knowing how they're going to take that praise. Right. If you feel like you didn't say it immediately, right, and you're like, oh, I missed my chance, you can still say it, right?
[00:21:48] Julia Lair: You can still go back to a phrase like, Hey, I really liked how you. You know, were able to tell me that about your friend or, you know, I really appreciate how you, did whatever they did. You can always circle back with them and still communicate that praise and that value for them.
[00:22:03] Leah Clionsky: Oh yeah. They can absolutely hear it later, even the next day. You know, by the way, I am really impressed with how you handled that friendship situation you were telling me about yesterday. We got interrupted. I didn't get to tell you, but like I really thought that you handled that with a lot of thoughtfulness,
[00:22:18] Julia Lair: Right.
[00:22:19] Leah Clionsky: you can hear it later. It has the most bang for its buck in the moment with a young child, especially. But after the fact is good too. If you see it, talk about it later, definitely always a good thing. I'm so glad you pointed that out, Julia. I think that's an often missed area of praise for sure.
[00:22:37] Julia Lair: Yeah. I think just as we, you know, as you start practicing more and more and as you're practicing hopefully right, kinda switching the lens which you're seeing, or your child's behavior, it'll get easier and easier to do it in the moment and feel less scary, easier to kinda spit it out on that number three.
[00:22:52] Leah Clionsky: yeah. Absolutely. Well, Julia, I'm so glad you joined us on the episode. Thank you for being on the episode. I think you did a wonderful job being on the podcast.
[00:23:03] Julia Lair: Thank you.
[00:23:03] Leah Clionsky: See she, Julia also likes praise. She was fantastic. And so if you would like to work with Julia, you can schedule an appointment through PCIT experts.
[00:23:14] Leah Clionsky: As you can see, she's lovely and very kind, and our kids and families make lots of progress with her. So I hope this has been a helpful episode to you. If you are afraid of praising, if you wanted to know how to do it, if you would like more help, if you need another set of eyes. On you while you're using these skills.
[00:23:34] Leah Clionsky: We will be so thrilled to help you at PCIT experts. So thank you for joining us, and I will talk to you next week.
[00:23:41] Julia Lair: Thanks.